If I don't ask, it simply doesn't get done. If I don't do it, it doesn't get done. When I realized that I was the only one who cares about this house, it was about all I could do to keep from yelling at them all and giving them a piece of my mind. I contemplated quitting. Seriously. What would everyone do if I just stopped cleaning up after everyone, and cooking their meals? Would this change anything?
Regretfully, I decided I better not make any rash decisions in my frazzled state. I was a little disappointed because I was kind of looking forward to state of chaos that would soon ensue. : )
But as I mulled things over, something else occurred to me.
They don't help because I haven't trained them to help. I've trained them to do whatever they want while I do all the work. That has got to change. Today.
While doing some research I came across this quote:
"Thoughts lead on to purposes; purposes go forth in action; actions form habits; habits decide character; and character fixes our destiny." ~Tryon Edwards
So this is what I've decided to do. Instead of trying to make a major overhaul of our family life in one afternoon, I'm going to choose two habits that require our daily attention. (This all pretty much coincides with my "start small" mantra too.) Here they are.
1. Put your clothes, shoes, coats, hats, etc. away. If you are not wearing it, it should be put away. This includes the bedroom!!!
This habit addresses a major issue in our home. Everyone and I mean EVERYONE has the very bad habit of leaving various articles of clothing laying around the house. So we are replacing a bad habit with a good one. Plus, once we get this one down, the girls' room will be 50% cleaner, and mine will pretty much stay clean all the time! Works for me.
So, this next habit isn't really about our messy house, but I figure while I'm on the habit train I might as well throw in some good healthful habits for good measure!
2. Drink a glass of water when you wake up in the morning, one at each meal, and one before bed.
I'm pretty sure we aren't drinking enough water. Simple as that.
Once these become habits, I'll add more. I'll keep you posted on how this works.
Well friend, thanks for reading my plan. Please send any suggestions my way!
